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People have been writing love letters for as long as people have been able to write. Some of those letters have survived, and a small number of them have become famous, read aloud in radio programmes and quoted in films and taught in literature classes. What is striking, when you sit with the originals, is how unguarded they are. The famous love letters are not famous because they are polished. They are famous because the writers said what they meant. That is the lesson worth carrying into a letter you might write this week.

Here are seven historical letter writers worth reading, what made each of their letters land, and what you can borrow from them when you sit down with your own page.

John Keats to Fanny Brawne

John Keats was twenty-three when he met Fanny Brawne, his neighbour in Hampstead. He died of tuberculosis at twenty-five, a little over two years later, never having married her. The letters he wrote in that short window are among the most quoted love letters in the English language, partly because of who he was and partly because the writing is so unguarded.

The Keats letters do not perform. He admits jealousy. He admits he cannot work for thinking about her. He writes, in one famous line, that he could die for her, and you believe him because he is dying. The letters land because there is no distance between the writer and the man on the page.

What a modern writer can borrow: write the unguarded line, not the impressive one. Keats did not try to sound like a poet in his letters. He tried to sound like himself, talking to her. The Marginalian has published a beautiful selection of the Keats letters that show this clearly. Read three of them in a row and you will see how plain his sentences are, even when his feelings are not.

Frida Kahlo to Diego Rivera

Frida Kahlo’s letters to Diego Rivera, and to other lovers across her life, are full of colour, jealousy, art, pain, and the kind of physical writing few letter writers attempt. She wrote with the same intensity she painted with. The letters are not tidy. They circle, repeat, contradict themselves, and arrive at moments of startling clarity.

What makes the Kahlo letters land is that she did not edit her feeling into something more manageable. Her relationship with Rivera was difficult, and her letters say so. She wrote love into the same page as anger, and they do not cancel each other. They sit side by side, which is closer to how love actually feels than the cleaned-up version most letter writers aim for.

What a modern writer can borrow: allow more than one feeling on the same page. If you love someone and you are also frustrated with them, you do not have to write two separate letters. Smithsonian Magazine has a useful piece on Kahlo’s letters and what they reveal about the unedited shape of real love.

Napoleon Bonaparte to Josephine

Napoleon wrote Josephine hundreds of letters from the field, and they read very little like the letters of a military leader. They are demanding, urgent, sometimes possessive, sometimes tender. He complained when she did not write back fast enough. He told her about his sleep. He wrote in lines that sound modern, two centuries later.

The Napoleon letters land because they are urgent. He was at war. He was tired. He wrote on the move. The letters do not pretend to be poetry. They are quick, hot, and entirely fixed on her. That urgency is rare in love letters today, which often feel as if the writer had plenty of time to make the page look nice.

What a modern writer can borrow: write from the day you are actually in. If you are tired, say so. If you are writing on a bus, say so. The letters that survive across centuries are usually the ones rooted in a specific moment, not the ones polished for an imagined reader. The basic biographical record is summarised on Wikipedia’s love letter article for anyone wanting more context.

Ludwig van Beethoven, the Immortal Beloved letter

Beethoven wrote one letter, never sent, found among his papers after his death in 1827, addressed only to my immortal beloved. We still do not know for certain who it was for. Scholars have argued for over a century. The mystery is part of why the letter is famous, but it is not why the letter lands.

What makes the Immortal Beloved letter land is that Beethoven wrote it in three sittings across two days, the morning, the evening, and the next morning. You can feel him moving through the hours. He starts hopeful, gets sad, recovers, drops into despair, and ends quietly. The letter is essentially a record of a man thinking about one person across a day and a half.

What a modern writer can borrow: a letter does not have to be written in one sitting. Some of the best are written across a stretch of hours, with the time stamps left in. If you write the morning paragraph one morning and finish the letter the next, the reader can feel you living between the lines. That is part of what gives a letter its weight.

Henry VIII to Anne Boleyn

Henry VIII wrote Anne Boleyn a series of letters during the years he was pursuing her, before he made himself head of a new church largely so he could marry her. The letters survive because the Vatican took them, in the hope of using them against him. They are now in the Vatican Library, and they are very strange to read.

The letters land because they show a king behaving like an ordinary lovesick man. He worries about whether she likes him back. He sends her gifts. He apologises for not writing sooner. He signs off with what was, in his hand, an unguarded affection. The letters undo the historical image of the man, and they do it in his own handwriting.

What a modern writer can borrow: power, status, and reputation are not what makes a love letter work. Honesty does. The BBC’s overview of the most famous love letters in history includes the Henry VIII letters and is a good starting place if you want to read across centuries in one sitting.

James Joyce to Nora Barnacle

James Joyce wrote Nora Barnacle, his lifelong partner, a long stream of letters across their separations, and the letters became famous partly because some of them are extremely physical. They are not what most readers expect from a literary great. They are intimate, specific, and undignified in the best sense.

What makes the Joyce letters land is the closeness. He wrote her as if no one else would ever read the pages. He used their private vocabulary. He referenced things only she would know. The letters break the rule that a love letter should be presentable. They were not for the public. They were for Nora, and the writing reflects that completely.

What a modern writer can borrow: write for the reader, not for the imagined audience. Use the words only the two of you use. Reference the things only they will catch. The most personal letters are almost always the ones that travel furthest in private memory.

Virginia Woolf to Vita Sackville-West

Virginia Woolf’s letters to Vita Sackville-West are some of the most quoted love letters between women in the English language, and they read very differently from any of the others on this list. They are quiet, witty, observant. They notice the light in a room. They notice what Vita is wearing. They notice the rhythm of the day. They are letters of paying attention.

What makes the Woolf letters land is the level of looking. She wrote love by writing close observation. She did not say I love you very often. She said, instead, what she had seen of Vita that day, and the love is in the seeing. That is a kind of writing that takes restraint, and it rewards rereading in a way louder letters do not.

What a modern writer can borrow: love can be written as careful attention. You do not have to declare. You can describe. A letter that notices the specific small things about the reader is often felt more deeply than one that uses the word love a dozen times.

What modern letter writers can take from this

Read across these seven writers and a pattern shows up. The letters that survived the centuries are not the polished ones. They are the unguarded ones. Keats admits jealousy. Kahlo admits anger. Napoleon admits exhaustion. Beethoven admits despair. Henry VIII admits insecurity. Joyce admits private intimacy. Woolf admits attention.

None of them tried to sound like a great writer. They tried to sound like themselves, on a page, talking to one specific person. That is the whole craft, even now. If you sit down to write a letter this week, you do not need to write better than Keats. You need to write as honestly as he did. The voice on the page should sound like you in a quiet room, not like you on a stage.

For more practical help with your own page, see our how to write a love letter guide, our notes on the handwritten love letter, and our collection of love letter quotes and love letter examples from modern readers. The historical writers above wrote on paper, in candlelight, with quills and steel pens. You have better tools and the same task.

Frequently asked questions

Are the historical love letters above all real?

Yes. Each of them is preserved in a museum, archive, or published collection. The Keats, Kahlo, Napoleon, Henry VIII, Joyce, and Woolf letters are widely reproduced. The Beethoven Immortal Beloved letter is held in the Berlin State Library. Wikipedia’s love letter article gives a useful overview with sources.

Why are these letters still read?

Because they are honest, not because the writers were famous. Most surviving love letters from history are dull. The handful that get reread across generations are the ones where the writer let their guard down on the page, and the reader can still feel that, sometimes hundreds of years later.

Should I try to write like one of them?

No. The lesson of these letters is not to imitate the style. It is to be as honest as they were. Keats sounded like Keats. Woolf sounded like Woolf. You should sound like you. The voice is the point, not the era.

Where can I read more historical love letters?

The BBC, The Marginalian, Smithsonian Magazine, and the websites of the British Library and the Morgan Library all hold accessible collections. Reading three or four in a row is a quick way to internalise how plain the surviving letters usually are.

Do any of these writers ever send letters they later regretted?

Almost all of them. Keats regretted letters written in jealousy. Joyce wrote letters he asked Nora to burn. Kahlo wrote and unwrote and rewrote across years. The regret is part of the record. It is also a small comfort to anyone afraid of getting a single letter exactly right.

Writing to someone who has no idea how you feel is one of the older, quieter acts in love. It is the letter that has been written in attics and dormitories and kitchen tables for hundreds of years. The shape of the letter has not changed much. What has changed is that we now have a thousand louder ways to tell someone how we feel, and most of them do the job worse. A letter is still the kindest opening line you can write.

Why this letter matters

You are choosing the slowest, most considered version of telling them. That choice itself says something. The reader, sitting alone with a page in their hand, gets to think before they have to answer. They are not put on the spot at a bar, or in the middle of a busy text thread, or in front of mutual friends.

You are also giving yourself the chance to say it cleanly. Said out loud, the words come out tangled. Written down, you can choose them. You can read the sentence back, decide whether you actually mean it, and keep only the ones that are true. That is a gift to both of you.

The letter does not have to lead anywhere. Many of the best letters of this kind have been written and never sent. Some are kept in a drawer for years. Some are read aloud once, to a friend, and then folded away. The point of the letter is not always the reply. Sometimes the point is the writing.

What to put on the page

Start with why you are writing, plainly. “I have been wanting to tell you this for a while.” “I am writing because saying it out loud has not been working.” “I do not know if you have noticed, but I have.” One short sentence is enough. The reader needs to know the letter is intentional, not casual.

Tell them what you have noticed about them. Not a list of their virtues, which reads as a sales pitch. One or two specific things. “The way you stop mid-sentence when you are thinking.” “How patient you are with your mother on the phone.” “The fact that you read the menu before you sit down.” Small specific details say I have been paying attention, in a way no general compliment can.

Then say what you feel, in the simplest language you can find. Not love at first sight, not soulmate, not the rest of my life. Something true. “I think about you more than I expected to.” “I would like to know you better than we know each other now.” “I have feelings for you that I do not know what to do with.” Plain is the right register here.

Give them an exit. “You do not have to answer this letter.” “If you read this and feel awkward, please know I will not bring it up.” “I am not asking you for anything except to know.” That sentence is what makes the letter safe to receive, and it is what separates a love letter from a confession that puts pressure on the reader.

The risk, and how to honour it

This letter has a real chance of not being returned. They may not feel the same way. They may already be with someone. They may want to stay friends in exactly the shape you currently have. All of those are normal outcomes, and the letter has to be written in a way that survives any of them.

That is why the exit line matters so much. Without it, the letter asks them to either reciprocate or feel guilty. With it, the letter is simply a piece of true information they now have. They can do whatever they want with it. The relationship between you does not have to break under the weight of the letter.

If you are not sure you can write it without pressuring them, write it and do not send it. There is real value in writing the letter just to know what is in it. Some readers find that once the letter exists, they no longer need to send it. Others find that writing it is what makes them realise they do.

Examples to borrow from

Letters written to someone who did not yet know.

• Read I Have Been Wanting to Tell You This For a While, a quiet opening letter.
• Read The Way You Stop Mid-Sentence, a specific-detail letter.
• Read You Do Not Have to Answer This Letter, an exit-given letter.
• Read A Letter I Wrote and Did Not Send, a letter kept in a drawer for two years.
• Read If You Read This and Want to Stay Friends, a letter that preserved a friendship.
• Read From the Bookshop, Three Aisles Over, a letter to someone who never knew who wrote it.

What to avoid

• Lines about destiny. They read as pressure, not affection.
• Long lists of their virtues. One or two specific notices is plenty.
• Asking for an answer by a date. The letter is not a transaction.
• Sending it through a mutual friend without warning them. Hand-deliver or post.
• Following up if they do not reply. Silence is an answer, gently received.

Frequently asked questions

What if they do not feel the same way?

Then the letter has done its job, which was to be honest. You wrote the truth and you left them free to respond as they wished. If the friendship survives, it will be on cleaner ground. If it does not, it was already harder than you knew. The letter itself was a kindness either way.

Should I sign it, or send it anonymously?

Sign it, almost always. An unsigned letter puts the reader in the awkward position of guessing, which is worse than knowing. The only exception is if you genuinely do not want a reply, in which case write the letter for yourself and keep it.

How long should the letter be?

One page, sometimes less. A long letter to someone who does not yet know how you feel is harder to read than a short one. The reader is already a little stunned by the first paragraph. Keep the rest gentle, and finish before you start repeating yourself.

What if I lose my nerve after sending it?

That is normal. Many writers feel sick for a day or two after a letter like this is in someone else’s hands. The feeling passes. The letter itself was true when you wrote it, and it is still true now, even if your nervous system is not enjoying the wait.

Further reading

For a slow read on why writing a love letter is still a small act of courage, see Literary Hub on the radical act of writing a love letter.