Valentine’s Day Messages for Her and Him: 67 Texts

Valentine’s Day messages for her

These messages were written by the Love Letters 411 editorial team as examples. They are not messages from readers. Swap the parts in [brackets] for your own details.

1. Happy Valentine’s Day, [her nickname]. Of all the good things this year gave me, you are the one I’m most thankful for.
2. I love you every day of the year, but I’m happy to have one more reason to say it out loud. Happy Valentine’s Day.
3. The shops are full of red hearts today. Not one of them comes close to how I feel when you laugh at [the joke you two never get tired of].
4. Happy Valentine’s Day to the woman who remembers everyone’s birthday, checks that everyone got home safe, and still makes time for me.
5. You are kind, brave and very funny, and somehow I’m the one who gets to spend Valentine’s Day with you. I know how lucky that makes me.
6. Wear [the dress or colour I love on you] tonight. I’ve booked [the place] for eight o’clock, and I’m already counting the hours.

Valentine’s Day messages for him

1. Happy Valentine’s Day, my love. Wherever you are is where I feel at home.
2. I love your patience, your terrible jokes and the big grin you give me when I walk through the door. Happy Valentine’s Day.
3. You work so hard for us. Tonight, let me look after you for a change. Dinner is [his favourite meal], and the washing up is mine.
4. Thank you for [the last kind thing he did, like fixing the gate before I even asked]. You notice everything. Happy Valentine’s Day, my love.
5. You make me braver. Before you, I would never have [something you did because of him, like applied for that job]. Happy Valentine’s Day.
6. Happy Valentine’s Day, handsome. I’d tell you how good you look today, but you’d only pretend not to hear.

Valentine’s Day messages for your wife

1. Happy Valentine’s Day to my wife. After [number] years, you are still the face I search for when I walk into a party.
2. Marrying you was the wisest thing I have ever done, and I’ve done some silly things. Happy Valentine’s Day.
3. I know life has been full with [work, the children, the house]. Tonight it’s just you and me, like when we first met.
4. Thank you for the school runs, the late nights and every hard conversation you didn’t run away from. Happy Valentine’s Day, my love.
5. Some husbands buy the wrong flowers on Valentine’s Day. I might be one of them, but I picked the right wife.
6. Wherever life takes us next, I want to get there with you. Happy Valentine’s Day, my wife.

Valentine’s Day messages for your husband

1. Happy Valentine’s Day, husband. It’s been [number] years, and you still [a small kind habit, like open the car door for me].
2. You’re my biggest fan, my calm in a storm, and the man I’ll happily disagree with about [something you always disagree about] for the rest of my life.
3. You put up with my grumpy mornings and my long days, and you never keep score. I notice, and I love you for it.
4. People warned us that marriage gets harder. With you, every year has been better than the one before. Happy Valentine’s Day.
5. Come home early tonight. I’ve [made your favourite or planned something small], and you’re not allowed to ask what it is.
6. When I said “I do”, I didn’t know marriage could be this much fun. Happy Valentine’s Day, my love.

Short Valentine’s Day messages

1. Happy Valentine’s Day, my love. Still choosing you.
2. You. Me. [Your favourite place] tonight?
3. Be my Valentine? Again? Please?
4. Today, tomorrow, every day: you.
5. Happy Valentine’s Day. Glad you’re here. Glad you’re you.
6. One day isn’t enough, but here goes: I love you.
7. Happy Valentine’s Day, [nickname]. Save me a hug for tonight.

Romantic Valentine’s Day messages

1. My gift today can’t be wrapped: my full attention, all evening, with my phone switched off.
2. The day I realised I loved you was [the day it happened]. Nothing since has changed my mind, and plenty has made me more sure.
3. Every year I look for a new way to say I love you. Every year I come back to those three words, because they are still true.
4. You still give me that nervous, happy feeling I had waiting for you outside [where you first met up]. Happy Valentine’s Day.
5. Tonight I just want to sit close, hold your hand and tell you all the reasons I’m glad I met you.
6. Some love is loud. Ours is quiet and steady, and I wouldn’t swap it for anything. Happy Valentine’s Day.

Funny Valentine’s Day messages

1. Happy Valentine’s Day to the person who puts up with my [snoring, singing or cooking]. Honestly, you deserve a medal.
2. I bought you chocolates. I also ate two on the way home. Happy Valentine’s Day, and sorry.
3. You’re my Valentine. I didn’t ask, I just told everyone. I hope that’s okay.
4. Flowers were very expensive this week, so you’re getting a text instead. Made with love and no delivery fee.
5. My plan for tonight: look at you, eat too much, fall asleep on the sofa by ten. Romantic, I know.
6. Happy Valentine’s Day. You still laugh at my worst jokes, so I’m never letting you go.

Long distance Valentine’s Day messages

1. [Number] miles away, and you’re still the closest person to me. Happy Valentine’s Day.
2. I’ve set an alarm so we can have dinner together on a video call at [time]. Same meal, two kitchens, one date.
3. Your parcel is on its way. Don’t open it until our call tonight, so we can open our gifts together.
4. I can’t hold your hand today, so I’m holding on to [the date you’ll next see each other] instead.
5. With our time difference, you’ll see this while I’m fast asleep. I fell asleep thinking about you, if that helps.
6. One day we’ll tell people about the Valentine’s Days we spent on calls with bad connections. Until then, hearing your voice is still my favourite thing.

Messages for your first Valentine’s Day together

1. Our first Valentine’s Day. I’m glad I’m spending it with you, and I hope there are plenty more.
2. I’m still learning all your favourite things, so I got you [the gift] and a promise to keep paying attention.
3. A few months ago we were [how you met, like two strangers in the same queue]. Now you’re my Valentine. Funny how that happens.
4. First Valentine’s together. No big plans, just a nice dinner and you. That’s all I wanted.
5. I’ve been excited about today since [when you started seeing each other]. Happy first Valentine’s Day.
6. I’m so happy you agreed to that first [coffee, call or date]. Happy first Valentine’s Day.

Valentine’s Day messages for a crush

Keep it light and kind, and leave them an easy way out. These are friendly messages, not big declarations, and none of them ask for an answer straight away.

1. Happy Valentine’s Day. No big speech. Someone thinks you’re great, and now you know.
2. I’d like to take you for [coffee or a walk] sometime. If you’d rather not, that’s completely fine, and nothing changes between us.
3. You make [class, work or the group chat] better just by being there. Happy Valentine’s Day.
4. I like talking to you, and I’d like to do more of it. You don’t need to answer today.
5. I wasn’t sure whether to send this. I decided you should know that I still think about how kind you were [the day you helped me with something].
6. Happy Valentine’s Day to someone who is very easy to like. That’s all. Have a lovely day.

Valentine’s Day messages when you are spending it apart

For the years when you are usually together but the day itself gets in the way: a work shift, a trip, or family who need you.

1. Working on Valentine’s Day wasn’t the plan, but you’ll be on my mind every break. We’ll celebrate properly on [the day you’ll be together].
2. I’m sorry I’m not there today. [Where you are, like this work trip] has my time, but you have all of me.
3. We’ll have our Valentine’s Day on [date]. Same love, different day. I’ve already marked the calendar.
4. I know you’re needed at [your parents’ house or the hospital] today. Go and look after them. I’ll be here when you get back, with dinner ready.
5. Being apart today reminds me how much I love being with you. Come home soon.
6. I left something for you in [a drawer or your bag]. Open it tonight and pretend I’m there.

How to send your Valentine’s Day message

Pick a message you could imagine saying to their face. Replace the words in brackets with a place, a name or a memory from your own story, and cut any word that doesn’t feel like yours.

Timing helps too. A text first thing in the morning starts their day well. A note left in a bag or a coat pocket is a nice surprise at lunchtime.

If one line isn’t enough, write a letter for the evening:

• Valentine’s Day love letters for anyone you love
• Valentine’s Day letters for her, whether she is your girlfriend, your wife or your crush
• Valentine’s Day letters for him, whether he is your boyfriend or your husband

Once 14 February has passed, our love messages for her and love messages for him are there for the rest of the year.

Frequently asked questions

How do I write a good Valentine's Day message?

Keep it short and make it about them. Name a quality you love in them, mention something real, such as a place or a shared joke, and finish with Happy Valentine's Day. One or two honest sentences are enough.

Is a text enough for Valentine's Day, or should I write a letter?

A text is a lovely way to start the day, and for a new relationship or a crush it may be all you need. If there is more you want to say, send a short message in the morning and give a handwritten letter in the evening.

How do I message my crush on Valentine's Day without making it awkward?

Send something friendly and light that does not ask for anything back. A compliment about who they are, or a simple invitation they can easily turn down, is kinder than a big confession. Respect whatever answer you get.

What should I say if we can't be together on Valentine's Day?

Tell them you miss them, and name the day you will celebrate together instead. A note they find later, or a call at a set time, can make the day feel shared even when you are apart.